Real Love™ has helped so many people create a happier life. Here is just a small selection of them.
(Anonymity preserved where requested)
Ian and I have been together for 23 years and thought we had a generally ‘happy’ and loving marriage. We originally came to Pete for help dealing with 10 years of IVF and multiple miscarriages, only to discover a whole multitude of hidden problems and childhood pain, that undealt with, have devastating effects on a marriage and our happiness as a family. Things we perceived in our relationship as minor and just ‘parts of our personalities’, we now realise were having huge detrimental effects on our day-to-day lives and our relationship with each other and with our daughter.
While I knew I’d had a painful childhood and had things to deal with, I just didn’t know how to go about doing this, I’d seen numerous counsellors and tried many forms of help with no avail, but during and after our three day intervention with Pete Uglow and coach Kathryn Barker, I am still in awe and wonder at how quickly so much pain can go away. It wasn’t about ‘dealing’ with things but about learning to be loved and accepted – extremely healing and like nothing ever experienced before. This isn’t just for people who have identified they have ‘problems’… Ian thought there was nothing wrong with his childhood or upbringing so it was a real shock for him to uncover just what an impact his childhood and lack of unconditional love has had on his behaviours and experiences as an adult. Among many realisations, I’ve identified I was using Ian as someone to ‘be there’ for me (using drama and manipulation as destructive behaviours), whilst Ian was fulfilling what we have now identified as ‘people-pleasing’ attributes by saying yes to me, and everyone else around him, which whilst feeling good immediately afterwards, are forms of imitation love that are damaging to our long term happiness.
The changes in our daughter are a miracle – it’s amazing how quickly and easily children pick this stuff up… we see her learn and grow every day in so many ways, just by learning to love her properly. I had previously been smothering her with what I thought was love, but this was love ‘for me’, along with my desperation for another child to fill the emptiness in my life.
This is a life-long journey, and while parts of the journey and the learning have been incredibly uncomfortable, we would do it all again tomorrow for the peace and the freedom on the other side.
Help with finding day-to-day happiness, discovering a happier and more fulfilling marriage, parenting issues, work, learning how to deal with discovering my Dad has cancer without all the drama and chaos I would previously had turned that situation into… are just some of the aspects of our lives that Real Love has helped with – the list is endless.
There’s still a lot of hard work to do, which could seem scary – but we don’t have to do it alone, and that removes the fear of confronting not only the big things but also the sometimes more hidden issues we perceived as ‘just life’. Pete and Kathryn are not ‘coaches’ but a Real Love “Mum and Dad” who are with us every step of the way, we could not be more grateful for their love and guidance which is revealing a happiness and new way of living we never knew existed.
In the last year I’ve found a source of unconditional love that stretches way beyond anything I ever imagined. I was truly blessed when I found this. I’ve been supported and loved to make huge changes in my life and over the year my fear has dropped, behaviours I had have disappeared and I’ve found a new level of peace and happiness that I literally didn’t know existed!
This is not a fairy tale or a quick fix. It is a life long journey of learning and growing and I know now that I can face anything with Real Love in my life and the real love coach who loves me by my side. It just keeps getting better.
It is never too late to start your life all over again! I am and I’m enjoying it !
“I have been coached by Pete for over 2 years now. I came to Pete when I was ashamed, when I was lost, when I was afraid, when I was confused, and when I was feeling worthless, and every single time he guided me out and helped me to learn and grow from it. Pete helped me grow in ways I could never have imagined, facing my own destructive behaviours that were harming me, harming my relationship and harming my kids. It became something rock-like, something I could absolutely depend on. I went to a Real Love Group twice a week for the first 18 months and I watched as others would come with much of the same feelings, and everyone who trusted Pete’s guidance experienced the same results as I was. Every time he was able to guide us out and help us learn and grow. Life can sometimes feel quite lonely, like we have to fend for ourselves without the kind of support we really need – not if you have Pete you don’t, not ever again!
I discovered Real Love 3 years ago when I was trawling Google for the answer to my question “How can I get over the pain of my husband cheating”?
He had been having an affair with his secretary and the ‘worthless’ pain, the images and the feeling of rejection was tearing me apart.
Fast forward a few months and I had an intervention which proved to be the start of the most incredible journey to happiness I could have ever imagined….for ‘me’ … but just not for ‘us’, in this case.
Don’t get me wrong, I had to face some pretty unsettling stuff about my own mistakes and flaws along the way, but I felt so deeply cared about by Pete, by Nikki, by people on the facebook group and more recently by people in the local Real Love groups, that it made absolute sense to carry on as with each new realisation about myself came a feeling of freedom and incredible joy.
Three years on, although my marriage is over, I’ve never been happier. I realised that I don’t need a man to make me feel complete. I’m complete already, so now I’m capable of being loving in any future relationship instead of needy.
“I had no idea how Real Love could help me – It sounded far fetched. The astonishing thing is, that it has not only helped me, but changed my whole life. I am now seeing everything more clearly and I have put some horrible events in my past into a completely new perspective. The anger and disgust I felt surrounding the memories of these events has vanished and I am learning how to replenish my emotional bank account on a daily basis – I’m hoping to be an emotional millionaire before too long! Thanks Pete & Nikki”
“I met Pete and Nikki at the lowest time in my life. I was lost and I was surrounded by a dark cloud that was swallowing me up. I had given everything I had to everyone around me and had nothing left for me, in fact I didn’t think I deserved anything. The intervention with them both, started my journey to discover Real Love and the real me. This journey is being made with the knowledge that I am loved by Pete and Nikki unconditionally, which has given me a personal strength I never knew existed. It is the continuing love and support of them both that I know will lead me and my family’s life to one of Real Love and Happiness. Thank you both x”
“My husband’s infidelity rocked my world. I have never felt so alone, so unwanted or so unattractive in my life. I felt completely worthless and it was so painful that I didn’t see how I could recover. Well meaning family and friends kept telling me what a useless man I had married and that I deserved more, but it didn’t help. In fact it made things worse – until I met Pete and Nikki.
I wanted to find a reason to forgive my husband because I was so scared of what my future would hold on my own, but at the same time I wanted to hurt him as badly as he had hurt me.
Real love has given me a whole new perspective on life, my marriage and me. I have learned to feel worthwhile and loved and how to love my husband too. The changes have been truly amazing. (My husband) and I have created a bond which is truly unbreakable and I absolutely know that he will never be unfaithful to me again. Neither of us needs anything more than we now have. It probably sounds naïve to other sceptical people, but it is absolutely true. Words can’t convey this feeling. Our world is now understandable and it’s almost like we have a blueprint for our life. Thank you both from the bottom of my heart.”
“I left the three day intervention feeling completely understood and deeply cared for. I have a totally new perspective on the world and my relationship. Why doesn’t everyone know this stuff? I feel like I am wearing new glasses and everything looks different, especially my husband!”
After my divorce I had lost trust in ever finding someone who loves me, especially because my son has special needs. I thought I never would find anyone who accepts me and my son and often felt sad and hopeless. I was wearing a mask pretending everything was all right, but inside I often was angry, sad, depressed and feeling sorry for myself.
Many relationships I had in the past had failed and I thought something was wrong with me, or that just could not find the right one.
Since I have found real love and loving friends who love me and accept me just the way I am right now, I am feeling encouraged and enabled to live a so much happier life. This radiates to my family and friends and I am confident to experience more meaningful and lasting relationships from now on, taking small steps day by day.
I am very grateful for Pete and Nikki Uglow and other loving friends for this profound change in my life.
When I discovered Real Love I had no idea I even needed it. I thought I was being a good mum to my 1 year old, that it was loving to worry about her. What I didn’t realise was that I was creating a very scared little girl. Two years on – with Real Love in my life I can see huge changes in my daughter and my second is just 6 months but already fearless. I continually work on loving them unconditionally with the help of my husband and a Real Love coach, and as I do so I have found a happiness and inner peace I never knew was possible.
“Our marriage had not been making either of us happy for many years and we both looked to other sources for happiness/fulfillment – I turned to the children thinking that if I couldn’t be the wife Steve wanted I would be the perfect mother instead and Steve turned to his career and then to other women. When we finally reached rock bottom Steve happened across Real Love whilst searching the internet for ‘the answer’. I must confess to having been very sceptical almost dismissing it as American lovey dovey self indulgence! How wrong could I be…. Our two stage intervention, Steve went first, then we went together, has had the most amazing effect on our relationship and my life in general. Within half a day i could see what was missing, Real Love. I know now that I have never felt loved unconditionally with any consistency throughout my life and I am learning with the help of Pete and Nikki and other wisemen, how to be loved and therefore able to be loving towards others. As a couple we are learning to love each other unconditionally and I hope to be able to pass this on to our now grown up children. I cannot recommend a Real Love intervention highly enough as the kick start to a whole new way of living and in some odd way am grateful to the meltdown Steve and I had that led us to finding Real Love and Pete and Nikki “
“Embracing Real Love has enabled me to understand exactly why I had affairs and also to find the ability to tell the truth about them, without feeling that I would be judged, embarrassed or blamed. It has also ensured I will never go back to that behaviour again.”
“My husband confessed that he had been unfaithful to me on numerous occasions throughout our marriage. I am absolutely positive that without the gentle guidance of Pete and Nikki, I would still be wallowing in self pity, unworthiness and bitterness towards my husband and myself.”
“Having studied personal development for over 20 years, and still found myself in pain and unable to communicate effectively with my partner, I could not have been more surprised and delighted by what the Real Love Intervention with Nikki and Pete Uglow led me to discover about myself as an individual and myself in relation to every other person in my life.
I would be lying if I did not say I was worried about what the Intervention would be like but I need not have been concerned. Although it turned my life upside down, life since Real Love has been so much better! I now have a profound understanding of what makes me and other people tick. I have found what I have been questing for my entire adult life and there is a profound peace in knowing I am on track and have the support of people who really do love and care about me.
I highly recommend Real Love UK and would urge anyone looking for peace, happiness and a deep sense of well-being to surrender to what Nikki and Pete have to offer.”
“I know how bruised and scared I felt when I stumbled across Pete & Nikki at Real Love UK. That’s just a distant memory now and I can’t thank them enough for helping me learn to love my husband and overcome all my own pain too.”
“Pete & Nikki are amongst the most genuine, sincere and “from the heart” people that I know. They are probably also amongst the most skilled and experienced people, in the world, that are able to help anyone with communication, emotional, or relationship issues.
They will help you easily cut through the pain and get the results that you are after with yourself and others. Let them help you :)”
“I want to thank Pete & Nikki, two of the most accepting people I have ever met in my life. What they shared with me and my husband, put our whole situation into perspective and showed us where it had all gone so very wrong.”
“Nikki & Pete have helped me understand the principles about Real Love in an easy-to-understand way. I have found them both to be immensely generous with their love, time and patience.They are the Real Love deal!! I couldn’t recommend them highly enough. They both have what it takes to help anyone over the bumps in life and to get you back on track. What they offer is a gift. Thank you for all the help and support you have offered me.”
“Our journey has just started, but we are filled with hope. I am so glad we found Real Love as it has changed everything.
Thank you for three amazing days. We are truly grateful to you both and can’t wait to learn how to love each other better.”
I first heard Pete speak at an event in April 2013 and read the Real Love book. I then had two days of coaching a few months later. I have held off writing a testimonial because I have undertaken various “personal development” programmes over the years and had coaching both personally and professionally. Nothing had ever addressed my feeling of restlessness, or helped me eliminate negative emotions including anger, irritation and resentment. I wanted to wait until I was really convinced that Real Love worked. 9 months on, I can confirm with 100% certainty that it does. Life is not without it’s challenges, they are inevitable and opportunities to continue to learn and to grow, but I am meeting them with a whole new level of confidence. Most importantly it is transforming my relationships with my family and I am experiencing a peacefulness and contentment with my life I never thought possible. The constant striving to be better is over and I am finding freedom and joy in the simplest of things. I have absolutely no hesitation in recommending Real Love and coaching by Pete and Nikki to anyone who is committed to finding a whole new level of happiness.
“My wife and I discovered Real Love at probably the lowest point of our marriage, but I now look back on that time as being the turning point of our entire lives. My wife was clearly telling me how unloved she felt by the behaviours she was exhibiting and in my own unloved state I chose to feel hurt and angry. Pete and Nikki helped us see what we were doing to each other and that in trying to ‘get’ love from each other and elsewhere, we were only succeeding in driving the real thing away.
We have had to relearn our whole view of the world, of what people’s behaviours are telling us and how our own behaviour gives away our emptiness. It has created an amazing bond between my wife and I and a completely life changing experience.”
“It’s surprising to realise its only 3 months since I first heard Pete speak about real love. It was rather a curve ball, not in the context of the other talks, but i immediately ‘got’ that I was listening to something … life changing. In a way it was way easier for me than others to connect with the concepts underlying real love because my childhood had been an overtly tricky one; acknowledging that my parents had done the best they could but hadn’t had the capacity to love me and my siblings unconditionally was a no-brainer. More, I also got, rather painfully, that I hadn’t unconditionally loved my own three children at all, and that I was wounding them day on day – unintentionally – by my entirely conditional loving. And for some time I had been looking for a way to do far better, for my children, for myself, for my work, for my family and friends, and for any future relationship I might have.
I went straight into action as i normally do: I read the books and listened to tapes. I really ‘got’ the message, thought about it, figured I understood it … but found I still had upsets with people I loved and crashed into feelings of emptiness still. One or two conversations with Pete clarified the problem: I was trying to do real love in my head, rather than feeling it in my heart.
Nearly 4 weeks ago, I did my two days with Pete: my intervention. Despite counting down the days in anticipation beforehand, I was palpably afraid when it arrived. Took a while to identify that as fear of trusting; fear of trusting in Pete, but more so fear of trusting in RL and it not being ‘the answer’. In a way, once I identified that, the fear melted away. Two days sitting talking with a man I hardly knew. I challenged and quizzed and scrutinised and challenged some more even after I was convinced this was the real deal. Then I simply let go of my ‘intellectual cynicism’ and let it in.
I loved that the two days were about feeling the essential truths without getting bogged in the detail. That it really was all about learning to receive and to give unconditional love. And that the ‘divine’ truths were simple, straight forward and intuitively resonated, viscerally, and in my heart, like truths we’d all always known long ago, but had simply forgotten over time.
In the stillness I knew I had absolutely everything I would ever want or need.
And in the 3 or 4 weeks since? People say “it’s a journey”; I’m only just realising what that means. I get it that everyone will have a different one, with smooth bits and bumpy bits, up hills and down. But none of that seems to matter long because I know I’ve finally found … the right road. And I carry two priceless items in my luggage – the deep peacefulness that comes with trusting absolutely and from knowing one actually IS unconditionally loved. I thank you Pete.”
“To be honest I have found the Real Love journey a huge challenge, because I have had to face things about myself that I really didn’t like. However with the loving acceptance of Pete and Nikki, I acknowledge that these behaviours aren’t actually ‘me’ but were protective behaviours I employed in the absence of real love. It all sounded a bit far fetched at first but the proof has been in the process. As I felt more loved and dropped my victim approach to life I began to experience a lightness and a joy I have never experienced before. Real Love is changing my life. It’s not been easy, but it’s been so worth it!”
“Before finding Real Love I imagined that I was ok and it was everybody else who wasn’t! I have been exposed to the books, the audios and an intervention with my wife. Pete and Nikki helped me discover that I was unloved and unhappy on so many levels. Whilst this was a challenge to be faced with, I found that telling and facing the truth is so freeing. My journey has only just begun and I have found Nikki and Pete’s unconditional caring and love both remarkable and an absolute breath of fresh air. They have enabled me to look at myself in a new way and work on eradicating my unloving debilitating behaviours in order for me to find happiness. Never before have I found two people who genuinely care for my happiness and are unconditionally loving. I know that they will be friends of mine for life.”
“I have been on a long spiritual journey for many years, and one of the things that has stuck with me for a long time is to own my own feelings and emotions and to know everything I feel is down to me and me only.
I have done many many healing modalities and been to many talks about releasing your fears and releasing negative patterns from the past. I even attended a Tony Robbins weekend seminar and went through a 4 hour emotional release process that actually transformed my relationship with my father….HOWEVER……I have carried through many patterns and held onto many negative feelings that simply would not go away, and in some cases got much worse, especially in my intimate relationships and having gone through all these different healing methods I felt frustrated at the lack of peace I thought I should be feeling for someone with as much emotional & spiritual awareness as I had.
Enter REAL LOVE! I can say with absolute honesty that this is the ONLY thing that has EVER had a dramatic and tangeable effect in my life.
When I realised that ALL the source of my pain was simply caused by me not being unconditionally loved, and I still carried through the effect of that through my life, everything clicked into place. Suddenly, I didn’t need to try different methods to clear my pain & patterns, all I needed was to feel loved ! how ridiculously simple is that !?!?!?
Getting loved for me was the missing piece of the jigsaw that isn’t taught in many circles because most focus on “loving yourself”, which is pretty hard when you haven’t been loved properly !
I have discovered the reasons behind all my imitation behaviours, which has been an incredible revelation. Yes, you could agree that we simply ARE love, that is our core essence, but that essence has been thrashed out of us over many years through lack of love, and I found myself very disconnected from my core essence, and therefore needed something to ‘reconnect’ me.
To be honest, it’s worked, I feel amazing and my levels of attachment, neediness and clinginess that I carry through my relationships have all but diminished, just from feeling & being unconditionally loved.
I have felt a love from Pete that is different to anything I’ve felt for many years and I have no doubt that its unconditional, and you simply cannot put words to it.
Pete & Nikki know how to love, and they use simple methods to ensure that others can feel the same……all it needs is trust and patience.”
“The biggest thing we have learned, is that the lack of Real Love is at the root of all the unhappiness in marriage, at work, in the whole world. Just by learning how to feel and to give this one simple ingredient, your life will look completely different.
Our lives have changed beyond recognition. We have overcome alcoholism, infidelity, anger issues and bankruptcy and our marriage is now incredible.
It takes work, but having a coach to hold your hand all the way through is not only invaluable, we would say it is vital. In Pete & Nikki, we have made friends for life and know that we always have someone to turn to when life throws up a curve ball.”
“I am so grateful to have met Pete and Nikki. Without them, I would know the principles of Real Love, but I would never have been able to implement them into my own life and more importantly I would never have FELT what Real Love is. Since my intervention I have been on a continuous journey, with numerous ups and downs, but with the knowledge that Pete and Nikki love me, I can trust that everything is going to be OK, no matter what mistakes I make along the way. I am so grateful to have not only their love, but a partner who is now learning to love me better every day and a growing community of people, each on their own journeys, who I can reach out to also. There is simply no other way to live.”
I don’t know what I expected from the intervention, maybe something momentous, like a huge Olympic Flame which would transform my life instantly. Of course it wasn’t like that, more like one of the Olympic torches that I touched for a while and then watched as it was carried away to a promise of the Olympic flame.
I soon realised that this Real Love journey might not necessarily be easy and that I will have to be courageous but I now have hope that my life can be different. Better. Much better.
Within the two days I felt deeply cared for but when I got home it felt very frightening and very lonely and a bit like I had woken up from a dream. Thankfully I soon began to believe in myself and in Pete & Nikki and the other wise people I’m lucky enough to know.
Although I felt it was going to be harder than I ever imagined, I also realised that I didn’t want anything else and that I could feel that it was going to be beautiful and that it could be beautiful quickly if I let it be and didn’t fight it all the time.
“I’ve known about Real Love via my family for a little while now, thinking that would be nice to do and never really doing much about it. I came to Pete and Nikki to have an intervention with my partner as I was personally at a very low point in my life as there was not much else I could really do. The intervention itself was incredible, allowing me to see an alternative way to how I was feeling before. It was really like opening new eyes on the world. I was always a little dubious about Real Love and after the intervention there was not a drop of doubt in me that it even existed. The intervention allowed me to really FEEL Real Love. It was just what I needed to kick start my Real Love journey. I am so grateful to both Pete and Nikki for the opportunity and time they gave me to really SEE what I can have and have deserved all my life. Thanks guys.”
When I was a young child, I had learned to get my sense of worth from being a certain way, I was one of the popular kids, cheeky and a tough fighter. Being tough gave me a sense of power over others which made me feel good about myself, like I was better than others who were less of those things. When I realised I was overweight due to a joke comment from my dad, I became anorexic. I lost a fight to someone who was younger than me when I was aged 13 and I felt like the world had ended. My whole sense of worth ruined in one foul swoop.
For the next 6 years I became introvert. Shy, I couldn’t live up to the cheeky, popular, tough identity that had previously given me my sense of worth. I really struggled to fit in and socialise. I felt inferior. These were painful years. I always felt like people were laughing and talking about me. I couldn’t speak for fear of not being accepted or being good enough to say anything. It got so painful I had to do something, so at 18 I decided to move abroad and make a fresh start.
I moved to Magaluf and I soon got involved in Drugs and started living the party lifestyle. This was great – while I was high and drunk I was more confident and having a great time. I strived to be the life and soul of the party and for the next 7 years I built up a new identity around this and my worth was seemingly restored. I was sleeping around, getting drunk and high on class A drugs, drink driving and generally just being wild. I was also manager at work so got to tell people what to do, earned good money and had a nice car. I became addicted the gym, sometimes taking steroids to progress my training. For a while it was great and I actually believed I felt happy.
However, by 25 I was addicted and NEEDED to take drugs, go to the gym, sleep with women and have a managerial role and nice car to be happy. I felt trapped and exhausted just keeping it all up! I hated the week and lived for the weekend and in the end, I lost a job over this addiction to drugs and was beginning to think there had to be more to life than this.
I decided getting rich was the answer; financial freedom would mean more free time to do all the above without being exhausted. I started reading books on how to get rich and then at the age of 27, I quit drugs and the party lifestyle in pursuit of my new goal to make lots of money.
I began attending personal development seminars and spent lots of money on private property development education to become a property investor and thus, I reasoned, a rich guy. I got a brand new Mercedes soft top and moved into a nice property. Surely this would make me happy?
The next 3 years I worked my socks off doing a job and property on the side. I was working 17 hour days as people were saying to me that to be as a successful entrepreneur, I will need to work hard. It got to a point when I was getting tired of working really hard and not making much progress. This wasn’t the life I though financial freedom was going to give me. I felt more trapped and exhausted than ever.
So I asked myself where is happiness found? If being confident, in great shape, taking drugs, sleeping with lots of girls, being the centre of attention, being the life and soul of the party, being the manager at work, being on good money, having a nice car, living in a nice house, having investment properties, having a nice girlfriend doesn’t work, then what does work?
I discovered Real Love through a friend and found that happiness actually comes from feeling loved and like you are worth something. When you feel loved and worthy just as you are, without having to change or be better, your happiness soars.
I now know that all of the above was just for me just an attempt to prove my worth, because I didn’t feel worthy as I was. If only I was more blah blah blah then I would be worthy and loveable. Trouble is though, because the underlying belief was that I am not good enough, until I dealt with that belief nothing I did or got would ever be enough. Pete and Nikki have revolutionised my whole belief system. I cannot even begin to describe how much they have changed my life.
“I was given a book on Real Love whilst if I am honest even the title put me off a little – however I read it and it really hit so many truths about myself that I was never consciously aware of before. It started me thinking and feeling in an entirely different way. My partner & I had split a month beforehand as we could see no way forward with the way we were behaving with each other – whilst I felt the relationship should work neither of us was making the other person happy. However I agreed to attend the 3 day intervention with her as much to find out about myself than anything else. It was life changing. We learnt and understood so much more about ourselves and why we had developed patterns of behaviour that were both unhelpful & destructive to both of us as well as those around us. It has given us not only our relationship back but a way to change these patterns going forward which are making us both so much happier, calmer and contented together and with other people. It’s on ongoing learning process and whilst we are still making mistakes along the journey the support of Nikki & Pete as well of course Greg the author has been and is fantastic.”
The first thing I noticed was how good it was to talk to someone who really listened to me, didn’t pass judgement, just listened. After two days I began to realise how much better I felt and that I actually had hope that things could be different for me.
It was actually the next day when I was explaining what Real Love was all about to my partner, that the penny dropped and then I KNEW Real Love was the way forward for me.
Three weeks on and I would say I am a completely different person to the one who walked in to Pete’s intervention room. I am back at work full-time and my fear has virtually gone. I know its still early days but I would advise EVERYONE to do this. What’s the worst that could happen? The answer, nothing bad, only good!
“I had been suffering from OCD for as long as I could remember and it was truly debilitating. Real Love has set me free”
“Pete and Nikki have truly taken to heart the principles of Real Love as taught by Greg Baer in his book Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love and Fulfilling Relationships. They have first of all “filled up” themselves by receiving the love they lacked in their childhood (like the majority of us) through “interventions” with Greg himself, attending conference calls and seminars and continually working on their own unhelpful behaviours. In doing so, they have transformed their own lives and are now sharing what they have received with others by creating Real Love in the UK, making available to those who live in Europe and elsewhere the precious unconditional love and teaching we all need. They are an example to us all and a great source of the Unconditional Love that changes lives and uplifts the soul, the only kind of love that matters.”
“My Real Love journey started after my wife died after 45 years of marriage. I thought I knew what love was all about but then I came to a Real Love group and realised this is a different world I have come into. I had an Intervention with Roman. He asked me if I wanted to trust him and I said I did. I decided to unload all my baggage on him. Roman told me he loved me (cared about my happiness without wanting ANYTHING in return) and then I realised that if Roman loves me then I must be lovable!!! I have complete faith in Roman. I know he will always only suggest things for MY happiness and I know because Roman loves me, I can take that with me anywhere! Now that I am loved, I am starting out on a beautiful journey and I know it will only get better. Thanks to Real Love I am truly happy and I am looking forward to sharing my love with the rest of the group and other people in my life. As a widower, I now hope it is not too late to make to make some lady very happy and to share this beautiful beautiful thing call Called Real Love( Unconditional Love) when I can love someone for who they are, not who I want them to be.”
“The real love intervention was nothing like I had ever experienced before. The process is truly indescribable, because it was an “experience”. I recall the feeling of pure love as I sat in the chair oppose Pete, and all I could do was smile; my heart had expanded and I felt connected to everything around me as a warm glow filled the room. The feeling was euphoric and I knew in that moment that everything in my spiritual life up until then had led me to this profound place of love and fulfillment. Since the intervention there have been significant changes in my life. Importantly, I now know what real love means. So I can now easily catch myself when attempting to attach to thoughts to penetrate an identity, that’s been created out of imitation love. In essence, the Real Love Intervention is a gift to experience that pure love that we all yield and hope for, and that will change your life forever.”
“My life in terms of my marriage, and the relationships I have with our 4 children was heading down the toilet. I had no idea what was wrong, how to be myself, what to do and it was unbearable – I was unhappy. Finding REAL LOVE has opened my eyes to what was there to have all along.. LOVE, PEACE and HAPPINESS. I am still near the start of my journey. At times this has been painful for me to admit; that I am responsible for how I feel, the choices I make and how I behave. With unconditionally loving support, I am now more able to see where I am going wrong and where I have been unloving and what to do about the challenges in life. The reality is that I have been FEARFUL all my life and as a result I have been alone and unable to love others.. Things are now changing for the better and there is no way back. I am eternally grateful to Greg Baer and Pete and Nikki, who have all helped me find a new way of living.”
“I discovered Real Love some years ago when I was at a low point in my life. The principles transformed the way I viewed the world and after going to the US for an intervention with Greg, then attending the UK Real Love Groups, I have begun to turn my life around and find the happiness I have always been searching for. Pete & Nikki have been an absolutely vital part of that journey and I am eternally grateful to them and to Greg.”
“Like most people, I found Real Love at a very low point in my life, I was having sleepless nights and full of worry over a terrible situation that involved myself and a best friend. Every day I would beat myself up because I felt responsible for the whole situation that we were in….until I found Real Love. Pete and Nikki Uglow taught me that I AM NOT responsible for OTHER people’s choices in life. This was a big turning point for me and helped me not only for this specific situation I am in, but also other daily situations that fall upon me.”
When my husband and I got married we were so happy and thought nothing could go wrong, but in just 2 years we HATED each other. I started reading Real Love as a last ditch effort before asking for a divorce, I was skeptical that I could make any positive changes in my marriage without my husband doing an equal share of the work, but I tried it anyway. I have been amazed at how much happier I am and how my marriage is improving on a daily basis, without any active help from my husband. I have never found a book that made more sense or helped improve things so dramatically so quickly.
“Pete and Nikki provide a pathway for you to find out the truth of who you really are by creating the space for you to feel accepted without condition, I began to tell the truth about things and events in my lifetime I never dared tell anyone, including my family and friends. Having someone to tell is one of the most liberating things I’ve ever done in my life. I hadn’t realised that I had been in emotional pain all my life and to be finally free of it, allowed me to get an understanding of who I am. Best of all, my understanding (all 35 years of it) of what I thought Love was, prior to meeting Pete and Nikki, was completely thrown out the window, and I finally felt and understood what Real Love is all about. It’s unlike anything I’ve ever experienced before, and anyone can experience it as well.”
“I came across Dr Greg Baer’s ‘Real Love in Marriage’ book whilst desperately looking for help to sort out my own marriage, which was in a mess. It was very practical and helpful and gave me hope. This led me to get help from Greg Baer himself. He is very much his own man and hugely inspiring. He has a huge open heart of love. He knows what suffering is because he’s been there and now he’s gradually found what works to transform his and countless other people’s lives from unhappiness to happiness. Pete and Nikki have thrown their whole hearts and souls into Real Love. They’ve been through the rough, tough bits and come out the other side, having found a deep love and respect for each other. This takes huge courage, fath and determination and they have all three. They are now an inspiration to me and many others. I am so grateful to Real Love. I now see my world through very different eyes and feel empowered to move forward in my life with joy in my heart. We also do Real Love groups in France – a healing space for others, which brings both them and us so much love and unity.”
“Since reading Real Love and applying the principles in my life I have been able to accept the challenging behaviour of others instead of reacting to it. This has vastly improved all my relationships and I am truly grateful for the simple principles of real love and the opportunity to share these with those in my life.”
“We stumbled across the book ‘Real Love in Marriage’ by Dr Greg Baer, a few years ago and it truly opened our eyes. We had no idea how much pain we were inflicting on each other as a result of our own emptiness. Once we had read the book we realised that it wasn’t just a load of principles that we had to practice, but that we had to actually find and learn to feel the real thing.
We had some pretty big issues to deal with so coaching with pete and Nikki was the obvious answer. With their guidance and loving support we have learned to rebuild our marriage based on unconditional love and the changes have been phenomenal.”
“I knew something was missing in my life but I didn’t know what. Practicing Real Love principles has transformed my everyday living from problem centered to a happy loving life, no matter what’s going on with the people around me. I had no idea how wonderful real love in real life could be and what an enormous difference it would make to my life. I thought I had love in my life but it was more of an after thought, with Real Love, love has become the center of my life. Now no matter whats going on around me, the problems, who’s right and who’s wrong, fade away in the presence of Real Love. It’s so amazingly freeing.Real Love has enabled me to really understand and love others; family and friends, even strangers when they inconvenience me or don’t care about me the way they should…Real Love is whats been missing all my life, there’s nothing like it, my life just keeps getting better and better.”
“There is an old spiritual saying that says, “God works through people”. Pete has been one of those people for me. If you want to change your life and experience Real Love (unconditional love) give Pete a call. He has accepted me and loved me unconditionally, even after telling him my problems and faults. And if you want to learn how to experience Real Love and increase the happiness and joy in your life, Pete can teach you the principals of Real Love. I’m 62 years old and have been seeking how to become a better and more loving person most of my life and I have never been able to attain those things. Real Love has give me the tools and steps to learn how to become a more happy and loving person. For me it wasn’t by reading a book or meditating on a mountain by myself and believe me I have tried those things. Again, it was through being unconditionally loved by other people and then learning how to unconditionally love others that I was able to experience Real Love. Talk to Pete and learn more about Real Love.”
“At 52, I am happier than I have been my whole life. After reading the ‘Real Love’ book, my husband and I decided to dive right in the pool and save ourselves and each other with an intervention with Greg. A pinnacle point in my life, my life will forever be about ‘Before Real Love and After’. The Real Love intervention with Greg catapulted us into Bliss. We left there changed forever, with big smiles on our faces and love overflowing in our hearts. I never knew your heart could smile. He also introduced us to the Real love community which is all the support you could imagine. Afterwards my husband, Dale and I, had an intervention with our daughter. No greater gift to give our children than Real Love, Really. At that intervention with Greg, we met Pete and Nikki Uglow. Wow what a couple of loving people. We had a connection right from the start. Their knowledge and experiences with their own Real Love journey is priceless. Pete has continued to be part of my Real Love journey and has helped me to facilitate my journey to Love. Pete has a way of loving and teaching that’s intoxicating, mostly because of his accent. Pete seems to know whatever I am talking about and what I need to learn from my mistakes and experiences. There has never been a time that I did not feel better, know I am loved and learn something from Pete’s conference calls or a one-on-one with him, or both Dale and I with Pete on Skype or support from emails. His gift just keeps on giving. I have every confidence that Pete could also catapult any one into their Real Love journey through an intervention with him. Intervention are for the purpose of feeling Real Love and sometimes we need some help with feeling loved unconditionally, because most of us have never felt it before, so we need to be shown what it looks like and sometimes we need some help with what might be blocking our hearts from feeling loved. Thank you so much to Greg and Donna Baer, Pete and Nikki Uglow, my loving husband, and the Real Love Community for their support, for changing my life and now I am happier and more at peace than I ever imagined possible.”
Real Love really works! Is today the day you decide to be happy?”
A need for ‘success’ was a constant drive for me, but regardless of how successful & popular I became amongst my peers or in front of large audiences, I never felt any happier. For as long as I could remember I was carrying a sense of fear, a sense of emptiness, a thirst for something that I just could not understand, couldn’t put my finger on & NOTHING I achieved or analysed or assessed and in fact I got myself to a place where I had literally given up and admitted that I did not have the answer, there must be another way to find what I was looking for.
When I finally found Real Love, I knew in my soul it was what I had been seeking for 30 years of my life. Dr Greg Baer’s work distils literally everything I have read and has combined his 20+ years of hands on experience of helping people find Unconditonal love. It has transformed my life. Real Love has been and continues to be a revolution in who I am, as I strip back the bullsh*t everyday layer by layer. Real Love has really transformed my relationship pre & post marriage & we didn’t really believe we had much to work on – that was a huge mistake! My wife finds peace in that everyday I am learning to love her better & the results are amazing.
“Real Love has been the answer to the challenges in my life, to name a few – financial, emotional, spiritual, social and personal relationships. We get to make our own choices in the search for finding genuine lasting happiness, the meaning and purpose of our lives. I’ve tried countless things to find that lasting joy and happiness with family and friends. All worked for a while, and then i realised it wasn’t enough. I almost gave up until the book Real Love turned up on my doorstep. Reading and applying the principles of Real Love and having the opportunity to be loved and taught by Dr Greg Baer I found the missing pieces and an understanding and experience that I will always be grateful for. It has been a miracle. If you want to find a greater sense of peace, well being and lasting happiness and are willing to take the steps in Real Love I can assure you that you will find the journey well worth every effort. Pete and Nikki have created a solid foundation of Real Love here in the UK. This message will continue to grow for the benefit of all whether they participate or not as we show what it means to feel unconditionally loved and to be able to love unconditionally – which has been the healing power of Real Love in my life.”
“Discovering Real Love and Greg Baer has had a huge impact on my life. I am learning more about myself and love every day. My growth and feeling loved went to a whole new level when I met Pete and Nikki and had loving connections in the UK. A turning point was my intervention. Spending time with Pete and Nikki in person helped me to ‘get it’ at a deeper level. Pete has been a huge source of love and wisdom in my life.”
As a business owner who values his staff when one of my employees on a personal level as well as at work was not in a good place I went looking for answers & a way to help him.
I can say I didn’t have a clue as to where to start to look so I found a “go compare type” web site for councillors, therapists etc there was a good number on there all offering services of one kind or another all at various prices.
I wrote a few notes at this stage & sent some emails back with questions to the ones that i had shortlisted.
The one who stood out with the time taken & care with replies was Pete Uglow.
We arranged to meet & after a further meeting I was convinced Pete was who I was looking for & put a plan into action.
Looking back after 6 months where we are now, I can tell you it is the best business decision I made, I have no regret’s & would 100% recommend Petes services to everyone.
Initially Real Love was applied to my personal relationships, but recently I have applied the principles in my property business. In the past when I have had issues with staff or builders not performing I would pretty much let people go without trying to help them. This meant high turnover of staff & contractors which was always challenging, stressful and somewhat draining. Since bringing Real love into the work place I now have a greater understanding of why people don’t always perform and what they need or lack in the moment both emotionally or in terms of skill knowledge and resources. I now know what to do to get the best out of my people, help them to feel loved, valued and appreciated which in turn has improved the efficiency and profits of my business.
Having been a business coach myself I highly recommend Real Love to any serious business owner as its the most effective tool to use that I have ever come across.